Therapy for Women and Couples Seeking Meaningful Change

Lynn Hoyland, therapy for women and couples in Arizona, Colorado, and Florida

If you’re looking for therapy for women and couples, you’re in the right place.

How Therapy for Women and Couples Can Help You Heal and Reconnect

If you are a woman seeking clarity or a couple working to reconnect, therapy offers a space to pause and reflect. From that place of awareness, you can begin to move forward with purpose. In a world that rarely slows down, I offer a space that does — where emotional truth, relational repair, and lasting change can begin.

For Women Seeking Support

You may be feeling emotionally overwhelmed, stuck in old patterns, or unsure how to honor your needs in relationships or in life. Ultimately, therapy is a place to sort through the noise, reconnect with your values, and reclaim your sense of self. In these moments of confusion, therapy offers a space to sort through the noise…

Common reasons women seek therapy with me include:

  • Relationship uncertainty or confusion
  • People-pleasing and difficulty setting boundaries
  • Grief, anxiety, or burnout
  • Healing after betrayal or emotional neglect
  • Navigating midlife transitions or identity shifts

No matter your relationship status, our work is centered around helping you feel clear, calm, and more fully yourself.

For Couples Looking to Reconnect

Oftentimes, couples often come to therapy feeling stuck in the same arguments, emotionally distant, or unsure how to repair trust after a rupture. In order to repair the relationship, I help partners slow down and understand the deeper patterns…

I use several approaches in couples counseling that are very effective in producing awareness, change and healing. Along with Family Systems Theory and concepts from Harvel Hendrix’s Imago Therapy, I use a developmental approach in working with couples that has been developed by Ellen Bader, Ph.D. and Peter Pearson, Ph.D.

Key aspects of this developmental approach involve understanding developmental issues in relationships, interaction patterns, communication patterns, expectations, and projections that couples may have in their relationship. Establishing clear goals and objectives is an important part of the couple’s therapy process, along with understanding attachment styles and the ability to differentiate from your partner.

According to Tim Atkinson, of Imago International, recent advances and discoveries in neuroscience are providing evidence for the effectiveness of interpersonal communication techniques, such as Imago therapy’s structured dialogue.

“This discovery [by neuroscientist Daniel Seigel] demonstrates how couples who learn to work calmly through their issues in a dialogue not only develop an increased capacity to show their care for each other, but also develop new neural pathways. Recent research has discovered there are “mirror neurons” in the brain, which appear to be the location for experiencing empathy for others. As couples practice empathy in their dialogues with each other, this exercises the mirror neurons, and helps both partners to increase their capacity for empathy.”

These results are exciting, because they show us that learning and utilizing these new skills not only produce behavioral changes, but they also produce deeper changes in the brain. This means that the changes are not just on a superficial level, but they are on a biochemical level that is more permanent and lasting.

Overall, what this means is that you and your partner can develop a more loving way of relating to each other, in order to achieve the intimacy you’ve been searching for.

Areas I support couples with include:

  • Communication breakdowns and chronic conflict
  • Loss of intimacy or emotional closeness
  • Recovery after infidelity or betrayal
  • Navigating parenting stress, life transitions, or addiction recovery
  • Premarital or long-term partnership work

My goal is to help each partner feel safe enough to be honest — and brave enough to change.

With over 38 years of clinical experience — and 35 years in personal recovery — I offer therapy that is compassionate, collaborative, and grounded in real tools for change.
I integrate methods such as:

  • EMDR (for trauma, grief, and emotional reprocessing)
  • CBT and mindfulness (for clarity, emotional regulation, and perspective)
  • The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy (for relational dynamics and repair)
  • Relapse Prevention, SSP, EFT, CSTIP, and other body-based and insight-oriented practices

You might be healing from past pain, working through present tension, or building a stronger future, know that you’re not alone. In many situations, therapy offers a path forward.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

What I Offer

• Therapy for Individual Women
Support for emotional clarity, boundary-setting, self-worth, and relationship patterns.

• Therapy for Couples
Help with communication, emotional disconnection, betrayal, and rebuilding trust.

• Trauma-Informed Therapy
Includes EMDR (trained), mindfulness, and nervous system tools to support healing.

Disclaimer: This website is for informational purposes only and does not constitute clinical advice or establish a therapist-client relationship. For personalized support, please reach out directly.

Learn more about me

Learn more about healthy communication at the The Couples Institute who created the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy

I offer therapy for women and couples throughout Arizona, Colorado, and Florida via secure telehealth. If you’re ready to explore how this work might support you please reach out by phone or email.

For general questions or to schedule a free 15 min consultation, you may email me at:
lynn@lynnhoyland.com — easiest way to reach me
or
lynnhoyland@hushmail.com — for those who prefer a secure email option (requires Hushmail or another secure email provider)

➡️ Please note: Standard email is not encrypted. If you’d like to communicate securely, let me know and we’ll switch to Hushmail or a secure form of messaging.

Lynn Hoyland, MA, LMFT 0346
Licensed in Arizona and Colorado; registered to provide telehealth in Florida # TPMF802
Phone: (602) 953-5542

More information on Florida Telehealth


Please note: Email is not appropriate for emergencies. If you are in crisis or need immediate support, please call 911, go to the nearest emergency room, or contact a local crisis line:

• Arizona (Maricopa County): 602-222-9444
• Florida: 211 or call 1-800-273-8255 (National Lifeline)
• Colorado: 1-844-493-TALK (8255) or text TALK to 38255

Disclaimer: This website is for informational purposes only and does not constitute clinical advice or establish a therapist-client relationship. For personalized support, please reach out directly.